5 clues you need a break

Have you ever heard of the crazy cycle? it happens in marriages everywhere. Some survive it and others don't. The basic principle is each partner blames their actions on the results of actions from their partner... maybe that's not too simple. Here's an example: My husband never listens, no matter how many times I ask him to do something it never gets done. When we ask the husband whats going on he replies "She's always bitching at me, I feel overwhelmed, I don't want to listen to her."

What's crazy is that this cycle can go on forever. With my Hubby I always want him to strive for something more, he thinks I'm bitching and nagging. Then I get upset that he says I'm nagging and I start to bitch... HAHAHA! No I haven't lost it. Maybe a little.

The thing is, I LOVE my husband and I know he loves me too and in the midst of all our craziness I know we can break this cycle.

If I were to be more direct with my expectations, and he with his we would be closer to understanding one another. Even though he may not be working, he needs a day a week to be alone from us, yes, his demanding family. By himself for himself.

I know this is true because I have the same urges.

How do you know you need a break:

1. when you hide in the bathroom to get away from your kids
2. when you suddenly start making up errands to run
3. when you notice your hands are reaching for a bottle of wine and you are not controlling them
4. when you start justifying crazy sociopath parents that hit their kids
5. when you think a 3 year old can take care of a 9 month old

Ok, go ahead and judge. No I don't hit my kids, no I do not lock them up and no I do not leave them alone...never. If you did judge, you either don't have kids or you think you're better than all of us. I don't give a shit.

What I'm getting at, is we all need a break. Maybe a day of me time. If that's fair, then a day of him time is fair too. I know, I know, we feel like we work harder than our husbands and this may be true but trust me. Give him a day off, just one day a week. Maybe even a few hours to go see his friends or do anything and he will be a more supportive, loving and appreciative dad and husband.

Talking about a day off, I'm ready for a spa day. Let's go ladies.